05 April 2019

No one vexed – 5 April 2019


In the Rule of St Benedict there is a section describing the monastery Cellarer.  The Cellarer is what in the military would be called the Quartermaster, in charge of supply and provision of food and drink and necessary equipment.  Benedict says the Cellarer must be humble and kind, should stick to his job without trying to turn it into a powerful fief, should be efficient, and sensitive to individual need.  And all this, says Benedict, is so that no one may be troubled or vexed in the house of God.  We know what “troubled” means… I think “vexed”, not a word we often use[1], means feeling at least irritated as well as troubled.  The Latin contristetur includes being made sad and possibly angry.

The idea of no one being troubled or vexed in the house of God may sound to us like Shangri-La.  Things do go wrong.  Human pride and perversity, even silly misunderstandings, guarantee that.  If you read the histories of great parishes in New Zealand, and of great church leaders, they are peppered with scandal, dispute, failure, schism and bitterness, at times. 

In contemplative life and prayer we have another frame of reference.  One of the commentators on this passage in the Rule of St Benedict says we are told not to react to those buttons pushed, (except) with love and humility.  We start to learn how to step back, how not to follow anyone else’s agenda of labelling, categorising, passing simplistic judgement, letting emotions rule and decide. 

We become acquainted with compassion, and with what it really means.  Compassion is a Latin derivation which means to suffer with, to share the pain, or sorrow, or bewilderment, or confusion, as it may be.  The equivalent Greek word arrives in English as sympathy, to suffer together with.  So sentimentalism, the popular secular refuge, is not the same as compassion… nor is having once had that happen to me…  In the company of Jesus the first task is not to feel sorry – how we feel is not the point – but to seek to understand and to be present to bear the weight, even the weight of guilt.  Understanding does entail being able to be still, to listen and to pay attention, the willingness to set ego aside, and not be driven by fear.

In Jesus’s company, what Benedict calls the house of God, it is not that everything is serene… that is indeed unlikely… but that our instinct is to bear one another’s burdens, including burdens of guilt and failure – and to decline other agendas.  Paul writes to the Colossians:  Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness and patience.  Bear with one another, and if anyone has a complaint, forgive each other…  Above all clothe yourselves with love…  And let the peace[2] of Christ rule in your hearts… and be thankful.[3] 




[1] In Pride and Prejudice, Mrs Bennet cries, “Oh Mr Bennet! nothing you say will ever vex me again!”  Mr Bennet replies, “I am sorry to hear that, my dear.”
[2] In Hebrew: Shalom…  In Arabic: Salaam…
[3] Colossians 3:12-15

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