28 October 2016

The present moment – 28 October 2016


To the most experienced meditators it is still commonplace that, as one person put it, the moment our bodies are stilled, our thoughts start to do the walking… We wander about in daydreams, down memory lane, planning, hoping, worrying; internally we are still filled with perpetual noise and movement, the mad whirl of disconnected thoughts.  I know we keep returning to this subject of distractions, but it can be a worry for meditators and sometimes lead to a sense of defeat.

I think there are two basic things to say.  The first is that our noisy minds, our distractions, are normal, utterly predictable, inevitable, and they are not our enemy.  Neither will the distractions ever completely disappear in meditation, so that one day we can guarantee to be floating around in blissful uninterrupted serenity.  When one woman asked Fr John Main how long it would be before she was undistracted, he replied, Oh, the first 30 years are the worst.  We introduce the mantra into our silence to be a stable, neutral focal point, the free alternative to any and all distraction, something to return to – usually over and over again.

What matters then is that we greet these thoughts, memories, anxieties, images, whatever they are, gently and simply as they appear, honour them by noting them -- and turn back to the mantra.  (Another classic saying about this is that while you can’t stop the birds flying overhead, you can stop them making nests in your hair.)  So this is what we do for the whole time of our prayer.  It is always gentle, no irritation or impatience, no recrimination… indeed, the thought, “I’m just not getting it right… I’ll never be any good at this”, is itself a distraction which we receive, note gently -- and return to the mantra.

The second basic issue is about time.  This is the harder one for me.  The distractions, if we permit them, always seduce us away from the present moment.  After all, that is how our minds have been trained and formed.  We live in linear time, that is to say, we think about what happened – that is memory; or we think about what might happen, quite often with anxiety – that is planning, or fearing the future…  Or we may dwell (abide is the biblical word) in the present moment – and that is attention.  Prayer, and particularly contemplative prayer, is a matter of attention.  It lives and breathes where God’s Spirit is present, attending to us in the present moment.  I am with you always… said Jesus. Abide in me, and I in you…  

Now it will always be difficult, as a matter of personal discipline, to learn to live, to attend, to abide in the present.  Of course we do have to remember the past and learn from it.  We are silly, even dangerous if we don’t.  And of course we must arrange prudently for the future, as we can.  In a way, those are disciplines also.  In Greek, all of that is chronos (χρονος), the linear passage of time and events that never ends.  The river of time.  But not in prayer.  Prayer is being present, now, the heart, timid perhaps, saying Yes to God and Yes to the way things are… because, for one thing, there is no help for us, no saving help for our world, in the denying or concealing of reality.  That meeting, then, in Greek, is kairos (καιρος), the special moment, the time when deep speaks to deep, as the Psalmist put it, when with the help of our discipline and our mantra we are for the moment blessedly still and silent, chronos steps back and kairos takes over -- and the Spirit can bring new things to birth in us and in our world.

21 October 2016

Not like other people – 21 October 2016


He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and regarded others with contempt: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, was praying thus, ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people: thieves, rogues, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give a tenth of all my income.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even look up to heaven, but was beating his breast and saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his home justified rather than the other.  [Luke 18:9-14]

It seems to me worth noting however that each man was correct, in a way.  There’s no need to see the pharisee as a hypocrite.  He may well have been just as upright as he claimed, observing the law, and genuinely grateful not to be part of the degeneracy around him.  It is a feeling we might sometimes be reasonably familiar with.  The tax collector by contrast may well have become ashamed, even disgusted, with his life – these tax collectors were men who bought contracts from the Roman government to collect taxes; they lived on what they could extort above and beyond the money the government required.  It was a squalid system, made for corruption and for leaving misery and penury in its trail. 

So what is the point in this story…?  Jesus says that it was the tax collector who went home “justified”, and not the pharisee.  “Justified”, in this context, means something like restored to favour, let out of the dog box… Yes, you can get off the naughty chair, now run outside and behave…!  In the religious thinking of that time – and, I’m sad to say, in many places in our time – you are either right with God or you are not.  God is pleased with you, accepting you, or not.  Some forms of faith actually encourage people to think this way, even warn that we may be offside with God without realising it, accidentally so to speak.  So then faith and worship and service become a matter of doing whatever you have to do to be right with God.   

Now, I confess, I don’t know that God… the God served this way seems like an idol to me… and here Jesus seems to be saying:  If you want to think in those terms, OK… but realise that it doesn’t turn out how you expect.  It was the one who had no illusions about himself whom God saw and accepted.  It was the one who never dreamed of claiming, “I am not like others, I am better than others…”   That was the crucial difference – not one man’s moral achievement and the other man’s moral failure, but the fact that the tax collector saw himself as one with all fallen and fallible humanity.  The pharisee saw himself safe on the moral and religious high ground, unsullied… and separate.

I am corresponding with a man in prison, sentenced for sexual crimes.  There is no way this man can occupy the moral high ground.  His professional life, his social life, his family life, are at an end, along with his self-respect, his dignity and his reputation.  For the rest of his days, in prison or out, he will have people passing judgement on him, restricting his life, rejecting him.  He is a Christian believer, although the faith in which he was instructed is desperately infantile and moralistic.   My task is gently to introduce him to the God Jesus called Father, who upsets religion and justifies, restores the ungodly who call in their need.

14 October 2016

Introversion it is not – 14 October 2016


One of the trendy ways to make sense of human society is to label people as extroverts or introverts.  It seems obvious.  Those labelled extroverts not only enjoy the company of others, but look for it and actually need it.  They languish and shrivel if they are all alone.  They are energised by other people.  They tell you: You should get out more.  These are the extroverts.  Others in category introvert tend more to be drained in society.  Hell is a cocktail party, as someone put it.  Far from languishing all on our own, we are restored and reanimated in solitude. 

We all know that life and people are actually much more complicated than that, and that most people find ways to live happily in both camps…  The assumption however is that when it comes to contemplative life and prayer, introverts will tend to take to it better than extroverts.  It is the introverts, we think, who will be more at home with silence and stillness and solitude… and inwardness… so the argument goes. 

Well, it is not so.  Fr Laurence Freeman says that in what he calls our self-conscious and narcissistic society, we confuse introversion with true interiority.  In contemplative spirituality, introversion is not what we are looking for.  Conversion is what we are looking for.  Our concern is no longer to be looking at ourselves and all our feelings, reactions, desires, ideas, dreams or daydreams… interiorly or exteriorly.  That is what we are turning away from, in our disciplines of silence, stillness and, with most of us, our mantra. 

True contemplative life, experience and prayer cordially includes both extroverts and introverts.  This is because it is at another level than all this management of self and fascination with self.  It is where we are consciously in the presence of the unseen God – or we may say, the Spirit of the Risen Jesus.  We are admitting a presence and a grace other than our own.  Whether the meditator is an extrovert or an introvert, either or some of each, the issue now is to be still and receptive, to be silent and undemanding… indeed, in what I think to be wonderfully moving Hebrew terms, to welcome with hospitality the love that encompasses us all. 

So personality type is interesting…  I have always found it so.  If nothing else, it warns me when to become invisible in company…  But in prayer the question does not arise.  Whoever I am and whatever I am like, indeed, however I may be feeling right now, I do what I can to be fully present – in the presence of God in Christ. 

07 October 2016

Exiles – 7 October 2016


The lectionary Old Testament reading for next Sunday takes us back to about 580 BCE, to Jerusalem, and to the Hebrew prophet Jeremiah.  Jerusalem has been conquered by the army of Nebuchadnezzar.  He has creamed off all the priests and intellectuals, the artisans and professionals, and has carted them away into exile in Babylon.  Jerusalem is a city largely destroyed, a way of life all but wiped out, families shattered, survivors wandering – we have exile, refugees, all the calamitous consequences of mindless violence. How familiar does that sound at present?  Jeremiah writes to the exiles in Babylon…

These are the words of the letter that the prophet Jeremiah sent from Jerusalem to the remaining elders among the exiles, and to the priests, the prophets, and all the people, whom Nebuchadnezzar had taken into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon…  Build houses and live in them; plant gardens and eat what they produce. Take wives and have sons and daughters; take wives for your sons, and give your daughters in marriage, that they may bear sons and daughters; multiply there, and do not decrease. But seek the welfare of the city where I have sent you into exile, and pray to the Lord on its behalf, for in its welfare you will find your welfare.  [Jeremiah 29:1, 5-7]

So they were to live through this catastrophe, and not by becoming perennial victims.  Build houses and live in them; plant gardens and eat what they produce. Take wives…  Jeremiah sets out for them what real faith is like.  It requires first that we have a sober awareness of reality.  The reality now was Babylon, being far from home and in a foreign culture; the reality entailed loss and sorrow.  To the victim it is not that.  The victim’s first reality is myself, what has happened to me, how much I am disabled by the events of my life.  I start to see everything through the sentimentalism of what could have been but wasn’t…. for me, or for my family or tribe.  It may be eminently understandable – and perhaps it’s all very well for me, since I am not a refugee or experiencing such things in my life – but victimhood shields us from God and from faith.  We have placed self in the place that belongs to God.

One stream of spiritual teaching says that we are all, in various ways, in exile.  Some of our protestant hymns reflect that teaching.  Another important stream remembers that we are all children or great-great-grandchildren of exiles, of people who for one reason or another left home and made a life in a new place.  The faith of Abraham, Jeremiah, Jesus or Francis the Pope, of countless exiles through the centuries, consists in taking the next step, trusting God, putting one foot in front of the other, being still, saying yes to life in both joy and pain.  What cannot be helpful is retreating into fantasies and regrets, blame and retribution, sentimental dreams of a former life where all was well.

Our prayer is the discipline in which we practise presence and reality.  This discipline is our growing familiarity with the space in which it becomes possible even to forgive our enemies – something Jesus taught, as we know, but nearly six centuries before that Jeremiah said: seek the welfare of the city where I have sent you into exile, and pray to the Lord on its behalf…  That city was Babylon.