29 March 2019

Each other – 29 March 2019


A former colleague of mine found himself at a Moslem event.  He was there to speak for the Christians, he was at the end of the queue of speakers, he was told that the Prime Minister had to leave shortly and so he had only 20 seconds. This is what he said…

In the Lord of the Rings, Sam says to an exhausted and despairing Frodo, 'I can't carry the ring, but I can carry you.'  Our beliefs differ and maybe we can't carry each other’s 'rings of truth', although there are times and places when we can and will discuss those with mutual respect.  Nevertheless, we can and must carry together each other's hopes and dreams for a city and country where all our children can be safe and happy and play together.

“Each other” – that common phrase suddenly struck me… a curious English idiom… Each… other…?  Think about it word by word.   “Each” means people one by one, or family by family, or tribe by tribe, religion by religion.  Not leaving people out.  “Each” implies all, inclusion.  But “each” also means particularity – each person in the family is different, but nevertheless there and belonging.  If someone expects them all to conform, they are out of luck.  So that word “each” embraces the tattooed and the untattooed, the wise and the simple, the good and the bad.

“Other” simply recognises that there is stuff in the world that is not me, that I can’t and needn’t try to control.  Other people, for instance.  Their histories are not the same as mine, nor are the experiences that are still forming them.  “Other” means then that I share my space, my country – and in the Christian community it means that I am accompanied at the Lord’s Table, where there can be no fences and no disqualifications.[1]

Our contemplative practice, day by day, is a matter of opening the door, or perhaps a matter of holding the gate ever more open.  We are not threatened by difference.  As the Dalai Lama put it, if you are a Christian be a good one – you don’t have to become a Buddhist.  We are instinctively suspicious of walls and barriers, protocols and parameters.  The Truth is not adherence to any doctrine – it is humble openness to reality and to my brother and sister. 

In silence and stillness the defensive layers are peeled off, gently and relentlessly over time, and we become true, as Jesus was… knowing love, offering love, bearing pain, sensing injustice, being present, being fully human.  The Prophet Micah said it long ago:  What does the Lord require of you but to do justice, to love kindness, to walk humbly.[2]



[1] I am so grateful to my old colleague, Stuart Vogel – I guess we are both pretty old these days – for sparking these thoughts in me at this time. Last time I saw Stuart, maybe 25 years ago, he was surviving an eye-wateringly tedious meeting of the Presbytery of Auckland by sitting at the back, reading Tolstoy… in Russian. 
[2] Micah 6:8

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